Wowowowow. This morning I found out I only had 3 days of childcare leave, and 3 days annual leave left. FOR THE REST OF THE YEAR. Mampossss ok. Thanks to me taking leave generously for the Bali trip, for Hyder's birthday, for this and that, esp lazing around at home. Heh.

Thank gawd my job enables me to save up my offdays, so yeah, I guess I'm still ok.

There's this overseas number calling my hp nonstop since 30 minutes ago. I'm scared to answer in case it's some China scam, HAHA, but at the same time I'm so curious lah. I have a feeling it's the agent from Belawan, he has this tendency to call handphones sometimes.

Btw people. $1 tickets to Bali / Jakarta / Ho Chi Minh / many other places, thanks to Jetstar. Of course that is not inclusive of taxes and such, but it will mean that your overall flying costs is not that bad lah, and thus you can spend more on that thing you wanted from your destination country.

When we saw those $1 ticket deals (total $232 for 2 adults 1 infant - return) I wanted to book immediately, to Bali. Yes, again, for Ocen Outrigger. Haha.

But a call to the husband made me come back to Earth, because he said we've been to Bali already, for what go again? Our plan is to conquer every single island that we've never been to, slowly and step by step. Hah.

So no Bali. Phuket Serenity Outrigger next, Insya'Allah.

AbgAim & family just got back from Bali and bought for me the dresses that I wanted, NEEDED in fact, coz they are just so gorgeous.

And also, they are the sweetest, because they got me my fruit&nut cookies too! I tell ya, anyone who goes to Indonesia from now on without getting me my fruit&nut cookies, will be BANNED from my FB friends list. HAHAHAHA.

I have hidden them somewhere I think my sisters won't be able to find, so I can go gobble them up all by myself. I'm thinking the best time to do that will be tomorrow night, since Saturday I'm not working. Get a good book and a nice cold Coke, and those fruit&nut cookies, and my life will be perfect. For the time being, at least. Haha.

My babyboy is still down with fever, although yesterday he could play abit with Ilhan, who came over to our house. But mostly he was weak and would rather sleep or roll around in bed. He sounds like a rockstar now. Cute, but I know it's painful for him, so I hope he heals fast. Insya'Allah.

When I have time to blog again, I want to blog about marriage and communication. Thanks to a conversation I had with an old friend, which made me think that our culture is very geared towards marriage, but what about readiness mentally, emotionally and spiritually?

Everyone is so hyped up about marriage, about the "inlove" feeling, but it seems like no one is waking them up to the unpleasant realities of life. And everyone's romanticising marriage - if they say anything negative about it, means they are shaming their spouses and such. HELL NO PEOPLE! ARGH! Piss me off like mad ah.

I think it's time we wake up. Marriage is great, yes, it is. But life isn't a bed of roses, and marriage is just one more thing to add to your worry list. If you aren't ready mentally and emotionally, you are going to create hell for yourself and your partner.

My friend has communication problems with her husband to be. Wondered if she really REALLY wants to marry him. The wedding is in a few months time. She asked me if it's normal to argue so much before a wedding.

I said yes, welllll I did argue like mad with Maj back then. So much so that I wanted to call it off too.

To look at it from a religion POV, satan doesn't want Muslims to nikah.

But realistically, I will tell you to really look deep down. Are those issues just wedding jitters, or something deep inside? I tell you, we had lots of work to do before we got married, but we neglected the most important part - the inside of our selves.

That sounds like some eatpraylove ashram mumbojumbo (if you read the book, you'll know what I mean) but I'm really serious here. If you have communication problems, you gotta work on it NOW.

After marriage, things won't get better. It'll just get worse. LOL. Right Husband?

It's of course easy to give advice. Hindsight is always 20/20. It's just that I don't want people to look back and regret. I don't regret marrying Maj, but I wish we were awake back then, when we were still single, and worked on our issues more, instead of thinking marriage will solve everything. Haha.

Oh, and people? Those friends who say yes it's normal to argue, in fact after marriage you will miss those arguments? They aren't your friends.

Your friends will smack you abit around the head and tell you WAKE THE @&*#@&*# UP.

Wowowwow what a rant. And all in one blogpost too! Hahaha.