On Saturday, we cut our shopping trip short, and went to Masjid Taqwa, for a syarahan titled Suami Perfect, Ayah Perfect, Keluarga Perfect - Mengikut Contoh Nabi Muhamad saw.

It was good, and I kindof memorised what they said. I didn't write down what they said right at the masjid itself, since we didn't bring a pen, and also because Hyder was very active and kecoh that night. So once we reached home, before I slept, I and Husband went over the points and wrote it down. So the advice here are accurate, only to the best of our abilities.

There was a special guest there, Syeikh Muhamad Nuruddin Marbu Abdullah Al-Banjari, who I have to say is one of the most handsome men I've ever seen. Is it wrong to say that about someone so esteemed? Because I really mean it. He looked so pure, so CLEAN, if there's such a word.

One of the speakers was also the man Mazreen learnt ngaji about 3 years back - Ustaz Abu Zaki - and amazingly he kindof remembered Mazreen, which makes the latter want to go back ngaji with him again.

So, like I've said, to the best of my ability, this was what was shared at the syarahan -

Smile with ikhlas everyday to your spouse. Be thankful (berterima kasih) towards each other. Gratitude for everything they do for you.

Never mock her jealousy. Jealousy is a human trait. Instead, always make her feel no.1. Even if you have daughters and sisters, you can hug them but always hug your wife more. Aisyah ra was jealous when Nabi Muhammad saw wanted to take a Jewish lady as his wife. Nabi Muhammad saw reminded her that she was of Arab descent, etc... all her kelebihan, making her feel better.

If your wife nags, just bear with it. Once, a man went to Saiyidina Umar's house to complain about his wife who can't stop complaining. At the door, he heard Saiyidina Umar's wife nagging.. and he felt ashamed that if Saiyidina Umar can tahan, why can't he. So men, please bear with it too.

At most you will be with your spouse for 50 years. SABAR. Have patience with whatever that happens. Your patience, will be rewarded with syurga for eternity.

I love the advice that Syeikh Nuruddin gave. He said there's a doa you can read, "Ya Allah, pendekkanlah umur suamiku kalau ia terbaik untuk diriku and agamaku." Then he said, "tetapi kasihan suaminya ya..." Hahaha.

It's easy to control your husband. Speak with cara lemah lembut, penuh kasih sayang and selalu berdoa that your husband akan terima hidayah dari Allah swt.

Bila kita sabar, Allah swt lebih mendekati kita, and lebih dengar doa kita. Insha'Allah hati suami akan menjadi lembut. Sabar is the key word.

Never ever kecikkan hati isteri. If you want to complain about anything, stick your head underwater, and scream and shout to the fishes. Haha. Seriously Syeikh Ustaz Md Rais said this. You can tell the fishes that your wife is now like a balloon, damn fat, etc but never ever say mean things to her face.

--> On this note, I just want to say eversince Mazreen heard this advice, he will go glugglugluglugugluggglugglugg each time he wants to say something mean now. Haha.

Always play with your wife and have fun together. Let her win. Laugh together.

Be clean. Brush your teeth before you go to her at night, get rid of unwanted hairs, smell nice for each other.

Love Nabi Muhamad above everyone and everything else.

Advice for the wives - Don't ask for anything from your husband. Most men have big hearts and want to provide every single thing for their wife but they lack the means to do it.

Both parts should be thankful .. the wife should be thankful for the things she received from her husband, and the husband should be thankful the wife isn't asking for anything.

Wives only have to do 4 things to get to syurga.
Solat
Puasa
Jaga awrah
Taat pada suami.

So do these 4 things for at most 50 to 60 years, and you'll be rewarded for eternity, Insha'Allah.

Remember, suami adalah syurga & nerakamu. Maka, banyaklah bersabar.

:)

There was also this side note added by Syeikh Nuruddin.

He said there was once a man who wanted to commit zina. There was nothing stopping him at all. And then suddenly he had a thought in his head... that whatever he could hold with just one hand (I'm thinking his dick, or the woman's boob?) is going to cost him syurga for eternity.

I thought that was a good story, simple and direct. I hope men out there will remember it for life.

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